Hello, I’m Nina Booysen and I use the pronouns she/her. I am a qualified counsellor, mental health social worker and clinical psychosexual therapist.
I have had 10 years’ experience working in areas such as domestic violence, sexual assault, and addictions. I specialise in sexuality and working with couples. I am privileged to have clients allow me to walk alongside them in this intimate space.
I am kink friendly and LGBTQIA+ inclusive. My passion is in helping people find comfort and pleasure with their sexual identity, expression, behaviour, and relationships.
I have had the privilege of working and living in the UK, USA, Kuwait and Australia. My priority is to provide a safe and non-judgemental environment, building rapport, so clients can work at their pace and feel comfortable. Clients amaze me with their resilience and willingness to grow. It my duty to continue to learn and improve my practice to get the best outcomes for clients.
The tools I use are Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, Solution Focused Brief Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, EMDR, Gottman Couples therapy and Internal Family Systems.
I believe we should be like trees and grow until the day we die. We don’t grow if we are not learning. We don’t grow when we are comfortable. This is why adversity can be useful.
If we can remain flexible and learn to tolerate discomfort, our potential is limitless. I was not a great learner at school but when I married my passion for helping others and the relevant studies, the experience was freeing and I began to love learning.
I wish that freedom for my clients as they learn about themselves and develop their own tools to make meaningful change. Every client has taught me something and I hope I have returned the favour.
This is a value I work to uphold, continuously. It is such a delicate thing and easily swayed. Balance takes focus and dedication. Too much of a good or bad thing has consequences. Even healthy carrots will turn your skin orange. Balance looks different for each person but finding it psychologically, emotionally and physically can lead to a sense of equilibrium affording you more capacity to reach for your goals.
A well-known study called the “Harvard study of Adult Development” is the longest longitudinal study conducted. It followed 724 men from 1938 designed to find what aspects of childhood and adult experience predict the quality of intimate relationships in late life and how late-life marriage is linked with health and well-being.
After all their interviews, data and tests, ultimately, they found that connection is the key to a happy life. It found that social connections are important for us. Quality relationships are more beneficial than quantity and good relationships protect your brain.
We are social animals. Happiest in a herd. I we get separated from the herd we will not survive. This is why loneliness exists, it pushes us to connect, to survive. I assist people to understand connection and their possible fear of it.
EMDR therapy may be helpful for those who have tried traditional talk therapy…
We would like to acknowledge that we live, work, and play on the traditional, ancestral and unceded territory of the Coast Salish peoples–Sḵwx̱wú7mesh (Squamish), Stó:lō and Səl̓ílwətaʔ/Selilwitulh (Tsleil-Waututh) and xʷməθkʷəy̓əm (Musqueam) Nations.